Assalamua’alaikum, Hey suppp everyone. Harapnya uolls are in a good state of health. Saja nak bebel sikit topik kita hari ni “Lets live in the real world”… Shall we???
Geng, firstly, of course i cakap and nasihat ni untuk diri i sendiri. And kalau ada yang sokong tu, alhmadulillah…yang tak tu, its okay. Sama-sama kita try to live “healthily” okies.
1. Its really annoyed and disgrace to see some of you were holding phone while having a family dinner together. Banyak kali tengok tau!!
Contoh eh, kat kedai makan ni, ada satu family, mak ayah and 3 anak dalam usia 15 ke 20 gitu. Dari sampai, duduk, tunggu makan, makan sampai, tengah makan and habis makan… tiga2 anak pegang and main phone. And there was no single “family” conversation at all.
Mak and ayah tu dok termenung kat anak2. Mak ayah tanya pon, diorang nak jawab and tak jawab. Dah macam tunggol je dua-dua orang tu…EEEE geram aku tau !. Kau ingat, kau ngan member kat mamak nak macam tu. Im sorry but i find it very rude attitude to be around your parents in that manner.
2. Please please please show some respect kat orang tua kita. For us, mungkin its not a big deal. Tapi utk mak ayah, it is ! Jangan diorang kecik hati ngan kita and mungkin ini asbab kecil kita ke neraka barangkali.
Mak and ayah is our prioritize. Put down your phone, focus on them, show them our love, take the food to their plate, feed them and make them laugh. Itu kan syurga kita. Bukan kita jadi hamba kepada technology.
3. Kadang tu kan, ada jugak yang the whole family main phone tau. Baik anak and mak ayah sama je. Mak dok main game crush apa tah, ayah dok facebook sambil senyum kambing biri-biri and anak dok sibuk IG and selfie and kalau boleh kat kedai makan tu ha dia nak buat tik tok.
Rasa mungkin diorang satu family ni cakap sesama sendiri through wassep kot kat meja makan tu. Yang lagi funny, ayah tu boleh on the phone sepanjang time makan sembang ngan kawan pasal politik, cakap macam nak rak laaa kata itu tak kena ini tak kene… kene ubah institusi negara la…
Aduh pak cik, institusi keluarga lagi penting yaa… kesian bini and anak2 nak makan pon tak senang.
4. C’mon la parents. you should lead the way to create a good and memorable conversation. U should control the situations. For me, meal time, its really a crucial and precious time as each of a family member is gather around . Why dont we use that particular time to catch up with each other.
Tanya laaa, “how was ur day” “how was school” “hows thing going” bla bla blaaaaa… its super simple, but its good enough to make someone feels belonging…and simply, its a love showing to someone how care we are to them. in the sense, that we wanted to know what is going on to their day.
5. And I dont blame to parents yang bagi phone/tab to their small kids during meal time. Kadang anak tu throwing tantrums tak kene masa and tempat. And mak ayah bagi tengok youtube utk leka kan mereka. Its understandable. But still, its always a limit.
Jangan jadi kan ni as routine dah la. Sampai anak tu dah terbiasa and tak boleh kalau tak de youtube semua tu. It should be applied to their life as well. Limit kan waktu penggunaan untuk mereka. Probably, 2-3 hours per day for the learning purposed only. InshaAllah it would be the best for them.
Apa2 pon, everyone has their own judgement. Be practical and fair enough in making a good one. apa yang saya cakap ni, situasi nya bukan la terhad kepada “waktu makan” je. kita ada akal fikiran yang Allah bagi, fikir laaaa jauh sikit naaa. ingat, jangan jadi hamba kepada technology!
In another note, Kepada yang ada mak ayah, jom call diorang tanya khabar, sihat ke tidak, dah makan ke belum… tengah buat apa… and tell them “SAYANG MAK/AYAH SANGAT SANGAT and please doa kan kita sentiasa sihat dan selamat di bawah rahmat/hidayah ALLAH”
Peace no war :)
– -AS- (Bukan nama sebenar)
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