Men are strong, yet they feel sad too. This is how I get over my relationship. We have been together for the last 5 years. Definitely Allah has a better plan for us. I is redha with takdir Allah.
First step
1) Solat istikharah and Doa
Bila hari pertama we fight, I start to solat istikharah and mohon petunjuk dari Allah. I continue until 7 days every night without missing a day (istiqamah). I asked for forgiveness and mohon petujuk dari Allah. I also pray for her, semoga diberikan kekuatan atas dugaan ini. Sometimes I solat hajat dan solat taubat atas apa yang berlaku. If u found someone, and want to find out if orang itu yang terbaik just solat 7 days of istikharah. Recently I doa supaya diberi kekuatan, somehow Allah duga dengan ini. I trust and yakin, whatever He decided for me, I redha. Go back to Him, serah segala pada-Nya. “Sesungguhnya sesudah kesulitan, ada kemudahan”
2) Cry
Don’t be so ego to cry, yes we are men, we are strong, but bear in mind that, Allah cipta sedih untuk kita hargai apa itu gembira. Supaya bila kita gembira, kita sentiasa bersyukur atas rahmat-Nya. Setiap kali when I cry, I doa supaya Allah give me strength and limpahkan rahmat-Nya. Kita tak lahir ketawa remember? (Yes, menangis tu cover la sikit. Lelaki kot) Disini I realize that, no matter how strong we believe we are, kita masih hamba-Nya yang terlalu lemah. “Hanya kepadaMu aku menyembah, hanya kepadaMu aku mohon pertolongan”
3) Why
Ask yourself why this is happening. Tanya diri sendiri kenapa. Kenapa dia tinggalkan aku, kenapa waktu ini, kenapa dia tidak memahami? Kenapa mungkin salah sendiri, kenapa sedih, kenapa kita tidak buat sesuatu, kenapa mungkin pengajaran atas dosa silam kita, kenapa itu dan kenapa ini, tulis dan ulang because it will help us to understand what this is all about, so that we don’t overthink, we just being present at the time, focus on these things.
4) Friends
Go talk to you friends. If malu nak cerita pasal break up, maybe can talk about anything else, usually friends will always be there. If u don’t have one, just talk to your family members. If tiada juga, then just meet anyone or strangers and tell them about it. I once told strangers about it, and she somehow help me bagi nasihat and all. Don’t worry, Allah will always deliver someone to help you. Trust me.
5) Forgiveness
Forgive her. Don’t feel mad at her. Yes, it is ridiculously hard, but you need to forgive her. You will feel better. Biar besar mana sekali pun kesalahan dia terhadap kita, just forgive her. I forgive her so that I can taste happiness again. Don’t we ever doa buruk terhadap mereka, biar kita doa supaya kita diberikan kekuatan dan mendapat rahmat-Nya. Karma will hit them hard, you don’t have to worry about it. Cuma persoalannya adakah kita ada untuk melihat perkara tersebut.
6) Time
Time will heal, the question is when? Bergantung kepada Allah jika Dia merasakan kita telah punyai kekuatan untuk mengharungi dugaan mendatang. Don’t worry, you will someday get back the happiness and definitely more happiness than before. Setiap yang berlaku pasti ada hikmahnya (blessing in disguise). Time will reward us. Trust Allah.
7) Help
Help others, or keep yourself busy. I decided to do lots of volunteering works, such as teaching the unfortunate, donating, helping others and contribute to others. Somehow I found my happiness when you give happiness. We give kind to receive kindness, we give love to receive loves.
I really hope that, someone will benefit at least something from what I wrote. Saya yakin dan pasti bahawa setiap yang berlaku, pasti ada hikmahnya, and I’m so excited on what Allah had planned for me. Probably my dream of pursuing PhD abroad with scholarship (please pray for me guys). Finally, I end my writing with this sentence. Thanks for your time reading this.
‘Tatkala kita merasakan perasaan itu milik kita, namun dikejutkan kenyataan ianya milik Sang Pencipta’. (air mata mengalir bersama dengan titik noktah)
Hamba Sang Pencipta
– Hamba Sang Pencipta
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