Assalamualaikum wbt. Sekadar berkongsi. I consider myself as a modern career woman and here is my confession. Kami campoq bahasa na.
1. Do i need a man?
Yes and no. I still believe that two is better than one. Tapi saya tak pasti adakah saya akan berjodoh.
Ramai rakan-rakan sejawat saya yang belum bertemu jodoh pada usia 30 tahun dan ke atas. Risau ke kami? We have a lot to worry than marriage for example our career and study. Kebanyakan kami sambung belajar. And we have families too! Mak, ayah, adik beradik.
Hangpa ingat kami single ni kami sebatang kara ka? Sebahagian dari kami dah plan nak ambil anak angkat. Kebahagiaan itu bukan terletak pada perkahwinan. Kalau bertemu jodoh tu Alhamdulillah tapi kami tak desperate. Tak. Bukanlah kata kami perfect, jauh dari sempurna tapi tak la gatai nak kawin.
2. Jangan paksa saya berhenti kerja.
Dear my future husband, (if i ever have one and to husbands to career women out there) please don’t do that. Unless i choose to and i tell you i wanna quit. First i love my job. It’s the love i found first before you. If you tell me that you want me to quit before marriage definitely i am not gonna choose you.
I am not sure how much i cried for my career and my study (meant for advancement for my career) but they are really rewarding. We cry the most for something we love, don’t we? I am really ambitious person, i plan to work overseas in future but i could let this go for you my dear. As long as you do not ask me to resign.
3. Pertaining to marriage and family.
Dear future husband, please respect me as your spouse. I am not your maid or worse your slave. I am not a labour machine. Please understand that good spacing is needed to provide good health physically, mentally for me, for our child and yes, for you dear.
Car seat is important. Confinement is a luxury and most importantly if done is meant to achieve good mental and physical health and to promote breastmilk production. So among things that should be done is drink a lot of water, walk a lot and eat healthy foods. Simple but very important.
4. #jangantakutjadijanda.
Sambil taip saya pun takut. Na’uzubillahi min zalik. Tak ada orang berkahwin untuk bercerai. Tapi jika perkahwinan itu adalah toksik, berlakunya penderaan fizikal, emosi dan sebagainya perkahwinan itu tidak selayaknya dipertahankan.
Jangan diguna alasan anak-anak kerana emosi anak-anak yang paling teruk terjejas jika ibu bapa bergaduh di hadapan mereka. Kita harus ingat sekarang cerai taklik dilafazkan ketika akad nikah maka ketahuilah hak anda. Kita juga ada fasakh dan khuluk.
So dear man, please be kind and do good.
– bukanoghangkedahno (Bukan nama sebenar)
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