Hi. Thanks to admin for published this confession and the last one.
Today, I nak bagi satu nasihat untuk semua perempuan kat luar sana. But why on earth would I spend my precious time doing this confession? Because I know how many females read IIUM confession.
1. Please love yourself first.
From my point of view, I think it is important to all women to love themselves first instead of seeking a boyfriend to gain some love and attention. People’s feeling can change, so it’s unreliable to depend on someone else to make you happy. You go and make yourself happy. So if you are having a break-up, you won’t have the thought to commit suicide since you love yourself first.
Love yourself include protect your dignity. Scream if someone sexually harassed you. Report it to the police if someone raped you even if the rapist is your family. Ashamed? There’s nothing you should be ashamed of. Those kinds of people are the one should be embarrassed.
2. Have financial education
Gain knowledge of what financial education means. Have financial goals. For example, “I wanna be financially free by the age of 40. I wanna have RM 4 million assets by then” or “I wanna own 10 houses in the next 10 years”. Have some target of what you wanna achieve and write those target on paper that you won’t waste your hard-earned money by spending it on useless thing such as luxury car (car is a liability, not an asset).
3. Please aware of your rights in marriage institution.
Marriage isn’t all about love. I feel ridiculous that so many women spend months on planning their wedding but very little time on planning their life after marriage.
My advice, never choose smoker as your husband. Because why would you be the one getting cancer when they are the one who are being stupid?
And tell your future husband that you don’t wanna live with parents especially if that man has siblings. I might sound cruel but staying with parents tends to do more harm than good. It also his responsibility to provide a place for you to stay.
Plan how many children you wanna have. Also plan how many years of gap between the first and second child. It is preferably that the older child is 3 year something so when the baby is born, he will become more understanding. Do a research on family planning. No need to focus on the quantity more than the quality. It’s useless if you have many children, but you didn’t have the time to educate them.
Please know that your husband didn’t have the right to take your children away from you if you divorce. Child support is his responsibility. You just have to find a way to make a living to support yourself. Unless if you marry another man. Then your ex-husband can fight in the court.
4. Please take a good care of your skin
I as many other women, love it so much when there is no pimples or scar on my face. So I wanna share my beauty tips. I put bedak sejuk on my face every night. I don’t touch my face frequently. On top of that, I don’t use local skincare. I DIY my bedak sejuk since I can’t find one to my liking. Those are steps when I do my bedak sejuk.
Rinse the uncooked rice until there are no more dirt (beras, I’m afraid that some people will misunderstood it for nasi).
Soak that rice in water. Store it in the fridge for a week. Change the water everyday. Blend it until it become smooth. And if it not smooth enough, use pestle and mortar. After that, titikkan those liquid (make sure it’s not too runny and not too thick) on a cotton cloth. Dry it under the sun.
Use it well.
Or you also can make the bedak sejuk simply by use the rice flour. But I never use the flour so I can’t talk much about it.
But people with dry skin can’t use the bedak sejuk. It will irritates the skin. And when washing your face after using it don’t rub your face harshly.
You also can put honey on your face (good for dry skin) since it has many benefits.
5. Don’t be ‘the other woman’
Please don’t be ‘the other woman’ in someone marriage. Yes, married man may seem more stable when compared to single man, but think of their children. To those whose say Rasulullah practice polygamy, so I have to practice it too, otherwise I’m not his ummah. But do you know that Rasulullah didn’t practice polygamy while his first wife is still alive.
Actually, I can’t understand women who chose to be second wife. Don’t you think of their kids? Growing kids need attention from both parents, not just one. Even if the spouse didn’t have kid, where is your compassion?
Last but not least, I hope all women reading this article can improve their value and knowledge. I also hope this article can at least help you in any way.
– Baby
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