Hi everyone. I wanna explain more about what you can do to improve yourself.
But I will explain about myself first. I’m 23 years old. So I’m not sure which part of me that is naive and young. Is someone knowledge and experience are determined by his age ? Of course not. A lot of other factors must be take into account. Anyway, there is still so much more for me to learn. Very interesting to see how people can psych themselves into thinking bad things are good for them. And sometimes I wonder how people can make that mistake. For example, become a drug addict. I always wonder how stupid someone has to be in order to addicted to drugs.
I also noticed that someone said that based on my writing and thinking style, I must be ‘gadis bandar’. I have no idea where that came from. Tell me, how can you differentiate between ‘gadis bandar’ and ‘gadis kampung’ ? Is it because I write the article in English ? Or ‘gadis kampung’ must be so outdated that they can’t think of other matters except marriage ? I don’t know. So please tell me.
‘Kita hanya mampu merancang, tapi hanya Allah yang menentukan’
That phrase is true. But you must remember this phrase too. ‘If you fail to plan, so by default, you plan to fail’. It the obvious thing. For example, you want to get employ. But you didn’t do anything. You didn’t send your resume, you didn’t do a research on job vacancy. So of course you won’t get employ. Another example is you want to be able to live the same lifestyle even after you retire. But you don’t have any property, no business, no investment. Hmm where all of your money go? Oh, it went to upgrading your car although the current car is still in good condition.
For God’s sake, please don’t waste your money by buying unnecessary thing such as first hand car (it’s better if you buy second hand imported car since the depreciation is so big and the Malaysia-made cars are not a good quality), changing the furniture and curtain in your house every year, and etc. This is why financial management is so important in our life. Important yet didn’t teach at school. For starter, you can read a blog of mohdzulkifli. He’s a dealer of Public Gold. But his blog not only consist of gold, but also about financial, property, good debt and bad debt. A very good blog. You also can buy and read Azizi Ali’s book. He’s like, a financial guru. I didn’t tell you this as a promoter, but because I wanna you to improve your knowledge. To have a better mindset.
Apart from financial management, knowing your rights in marriage is important too as I said before. You can read Buatmu Wanita by Suzana Ghazali. Very informative, educational and realistic. With so many information she give in that book, I can guarantee that you won’t regret buying it. I didn’t. A lot of my knowledge about marriage now came from reading that book.
Next, I admit that I already have a set of requirements for my future husband. Yes, I maybe a perfectionist when it come to choosing a husband. But I believe in order to form a happy family, the parents has to be a good, God-abiding person. I once read a story about a man with his son met Rasulullah and asking, please tell me how to groom him to become a soleh son. But Rasulullah said, you’re too late. You’re supposed to begin by carefully choosing his mother. The moral value of this story is that I do have to be picky. It’s my life. It’s about the person that is going to spend his life with me. FYI, I’m not soooo desperate to get married to the point I must marry any man that is interested in me. I believe if I take a good care of myself, continuously gain knowledge, I won’t be desperate to get married. I will get married when I’m ready not because I can’t wait to have sex legitimately. In fact, I’d rather die than marry a man that is a :
Smoke
Hot temper
Abusive
Anak mak sgt (xde prinsip hidup)
Alcoholic
Drug addict
Doesn’t have financial planning
Stupid man that can’t differentiate between liability and asset
I also feels that it’s important to gain parenting knowledge. Why wait until get married to know how to educate your kids ? And it’s highly unlikely the parenting knowledge will get into your brain like a flash soon after you get married.
That’s all from me, for now. Adios.
– Baby
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