Four months ago, I met someone who I thought could be the one. We started talking regularly, building a connection. I was clear from the start on what i want.
As time went on, my own insecurities and overthinking started to cloud my perspective.
I began to interpret his actions as mixed signals. Sometimes I felt he was engaged and interested, but other times, I thought he seemed distant or unsure about us.
Looking back, I realize that this might have been my own perception rather than his actual behavior. He wasn’t necessarily giving mixed signals—I was overanalyzing every little thing.
I started seeking constant reassurance, questioning every interaction, and convincing myself that he wasn’t as invested as I was.
My fear of losing him made me push harder for clarity. When I asked him where we stood, he told me not to put a timeline on things and to let the relationship develop naturally. But instead of trusting his words, I let my doubts take over.
I began to pressure him, which only added tension between us.
As time went on, I became more anxious about where we stood. I started doubting myself. Was I doing enough? Was I being too much? My fear of losing him pushed me to seek reassurance constantly.
I asked him where our relationship was headed . He told me not to put a timeline on things and to let it happen naturally and we both are ready to commit, we there will always way to do it.
And then a month later, I asked him if i was an option to him and did he see future with me,
At first he avoid the question and said he will reply about it later but my overthinking went high, so i push him for clarity and i told him why i feel the way i felt and he said my overthinking was killing the connection.
He told me, This isn’t healthy and Let’s stop here.Those words broke me. At the time I know that the emotion took over me and I do something stupid.
I begged him to give me one last chance, but he seemed resolute, saying he had things to do.
But then I said to him, Okay (his name), sorry to disturb. We text back when we are free and relax, okay? and he said yes
Whatever he said is true and I admit it. So, Im writing this because I know I am at the biggest fault, my overthinking, my impatient makes the thing worse and ruin everything.
What can i do to fix this and win him back and do you guys think i have a chance? because I am so lost right now.
He is a good man, responsible, tried hard to make me understand the situation but the problem is me.
– Lavender (Bukan nama sebenar)
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