Salam Alaykum. Nama saya Bunga (seperti rapper yang dikenali) dan saya ingin mengajukan pertanyaan kepada para pembaca yang dihormati.
Saya membesar dan bersosial dalam kalangan “muslim liberal” manakala bakal pasangan saya membesar dan bersosial dalam kalangan “pious muslims”. Dia bersekolah di sekolah agama dan kurang bersosial dengan mereka yang practice different way of life.
Saya fasih bercakap dalam bahasa melayu tetapi apabila mengarang saya dapati bahasa melayu saya sedikit kekok. Saya meminta izin untuk mengarang di dalam bahasa penjajah kerana saya lebih selesa dan itu dapat memastikan saya berjaya meluahkan buah fikiran saya yang celaru.
Walaupun begitu, English saya tidaklah perfect. Of course semasa membaca audience would find grammatical errors in my sentences. Seperti pepatah average in all master of none. Bahasa ibunda tidak mahir bahasa kedua juga biasa-biasa saja.
Back to my concern, from what I have mentioned my family is a practicing Muslim family but we are quite liberal in our way of life. So what is liberal that i have said here. Liberal here means that perhaps our way of thinking is not same and on board with other people of the society.
We are able to respect differences and tolerate different things as long as those concerns does not harm us. Let me give an example to give you a clearer view of how my family looks like. My parents do not like prepaid services. To them those are scams. Very conservative way of thinking.
However, as children of these folks we do not say that they are wrong and they should change their mindset.
Instead, we respect their ways and let them be as long as it does not harm us. We, the children we do prepaid services. Because prepaid means paying in advance and there is nothing wrong with that.
Besides that, i have brothers who were married and raising kids totally different from each other. But as family members, nobody has ever commented on their style of parenting because it is their family not ours. My nieces and nephews but not my kids.
Sometime when you see kids throwing tantrum you would feel like giving a sweet ass wallop but their parents would coax them telling them nicely to stop behaving such a way and there you were giving side eye and beating the kids in your head.
Like i said, we just respect and keep the comments to ourselves. Even my mother has never said foul things on my sisters in law. Nobody is perfect and she accepts them the way they are.
Jadi, itu adalah gambaran keluarga saya. Sekarang saya ingin menggambarkan gambaran keluarga bakal pasangan saya. Info-info ini adalah apa yang saya tahu dari bakal pasangan.
Saya tidak begitu kenal dan mendalami keluarga dia lagi. Jadi mungkin info-info ini sedikit berat sebelah. Tetapi saya akan cuba menggambarkan secara general so we all can get the picture.
Dia merupakan graduan fakulti islam di sebuah IPT dan inshaAllah bakal juga bekerja dalam sektor yang berkait rapat dengan agama Islam.
And as i have mentioned, he went to islamic school, islamic faculty and he has always been surrounded but malays who are muslims and practicing to be exact.
Like those pious peeps that we normal folks would normally avoid (me particularly). He even said he only had non-muslims friends during plkn. Therefore, i believe he had few experiences encountering differences of thinking from the society.
Issue 1: Takaful vs Conventional
I believe takaful is a scam. If even though it is not entirely a scam, it is not entirely islamic either. In depth the mechanism of takaful is same/similar to conventional. Therefore, i feel deceived with takaful. All of my insurance subscribed to conventional insurance.
I totally stand with Brother Safdar Alam with his views on takaful vs conventional. I can only be convinced if there is any academic article to support that takaful is islamic and the mechanism is not sugarcoating conventional approach. I dont buy the arabic terms to justify the islamic elements of it.
He believes as muslims we all should subscribe to islamic products. His only justification was that as muslims we should take what is the nearest to the religion. He couldnt justify further.
(and I am willing to let this slide and in the future if we were to buy insurance for our children I am willing to get takaful to be on the same boat as he is). This, I am fine and I’m willing to. However, he believes that I and him should be on the same boat on this matter.
He mentioned about being tak sekufu in terms of our way of thinking. Thing is, we can agree to disagree right? or am I wrong? If we were to buy for our kids yes I’m willing to tolerate but what about MY insurance, MY epf MY savings?? can’t I opt to the ones that I choose??
Saya dah banyak dengar ceramah. Akan tetapi para ustaz tidak memberi nasihat mahupun buah fikiran when it comes to technical things in life. Saya tidak against islamic products cuma saya tidak mahu buat diri sendiri kerana saya berasa seakan tertipu. Saya tidak suka ditipu hidup-hidup.
Banyak sangat badan islam yang menipu, surat khabar habis kertas kalau nak mengupas segala penipuan badan-badan islam seperti yang kita pernah diperlihatkan.
Antaranya, YAPIEM, rumah anak yatim yang terbakar RM10 juta lesap. Saya cuba mencari jawapan. Saya masih belum menemui jawapan.
Soalannya, adakah dia dan saya tidak sekufu? Adakah kami tidak sesuai untuk membina masjid bersama? Adakah issue ini akan mengganggu bahtera yang akan dibina? Saya sangat menghargai segala pandangan dan saya sangat tidak menghargai sebarang kecaman.
Hal ini kerana, sebagai seorang muslim walaupun kita berbeza pendapat tetapi pada amatan saya pendapat tersebut harusla dizahirkan dengan adab.
Kita sesama manusia kalau boleh jangan mengguris hati sesama insan. The world is already a tough place to live in. It doesnt hurt to be nice to each other.
Wasalam Alaykum.
– Bunga (Bukan nama sebenar)
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