hikmah putus tunang
first, tq admin sebab sudi approve cerita aku
pengalaman putus tunang memang menyebabkan aku hampir gila..aku kenal dia waktu aku tgh preparation A-Level..kemudian aku fly ke US..kami bertunang selepas beberapa bulan perkenalan..niat aku supaya nak fokus dalam study dan malas nak pikir soal calon lg..
rupanya, pertunangan x sampai setahun..dia mintak putus..dan dia hantar semula cincin risik dan tunang melalui pos..waktu tu memang aku hampir gila..
pd hari dia mintak putus aku terus beli tiket dan balik ke malaysia..jumpa dgn family dia secara berseorangan..tp family dia buat bersahaja je..rupanya dia dah bersedia utk majlis perkahwinan dgn bakal suami dia..aku dijemput oleh keluarga dia utk hadir..dan aku HADIR!..lebih sebulan beb aku x pergi ke kelas..aku duduk kat rumah dan tenangkan fikiran..
mujur mak aku ada..dia yg berikan semangat dkt aku..aku rasa mcm budak2 bila aku menangis depan mak aku..mak aku yg tenangkan diri aku..mak aku nasihatkan supaya fokus belajar dan berusaha..mak aku jugak nasihatkan aku supaya kerja part time dan cari pengalaman berniaga dkt negara org..aku tau, sebenarnya mak nak aku sibuk supaya fikiran aku x fokus dkt soal putus tunang..
after sebulan lebih, dgn dpt warning email dr universiti, aku balik semula ke U.S..waktu tu setiap hari mak aku call..nak pastikan supaya aku x sedih..
bermula dari tu, aku bangkit..belajar berniaga..cari peluang belajar tentang business dkt US..aku belajar dgn anak buah calon presiden US sendiri..donal trump..aku belajar tentang hartanah..kemudian buat bisnes kecil-kecilan..bermula dr pekerja sehingga boleh memiliki perniagaan dan kedai sendiri..
mak sentiasa call dan tanya khabar..akhirnya aku berjaya lengkapkan master dan phd aku dalam bidang engineering sebelum usia 26 tahun..memang aku belajar sungguh2 dan kerja siang malam..dkt oversea, xde masalah kalau nak amek berapa jam kredit sekalipun satu sem..asalkan kau boleh carry on dah la..waktu tu mak aku sentiasa pantau kehidupan aku melalui call, skype etc..
akhirnya, aku balik ke malaysia dgn membawa gelaran Dr..dan aku bekerja dkt company oil & gas di malaysia..tp bukan company malaysia..dari situ juga aku memperolehi title Ir..dalam pada masa yg sama..semua berlaku sebelum aku berumur 30 tahun..dalam pada masa yg sama aku dah ada syarikat sendiri..syarikat yg aku usahakan waktu aku belajar degree lg..berbekalkan pengalaman belajar dgn org yg berjaya..
putus tunang memang sakit dan mengecewakan..tp jgn sampai perkara tersebut mengorbankan masa depan kita..trust me, mak adalah org yg paling memahami diri kita..jgn malu utk bercerita dgn dia..mak adalah org yg x akan tinggalkan kita walau mcm mana sekalipun keadaan kita..
alhamdulillah..hikmah putus tunang memang besar..dan dorongan mak memang sgt membantu..plg tidak sekarang aku dh ada most of apa yg manusia nak..syarikat sendiri, pekerjaan, rumah, kereta etc..dan sekarang syarikat aku dh menguruskan projek pembinaan, maintenance etc yg melibatkan puluhan juta..aku capai semua ni sebelum umur aku mencecah 30 tahun..
pesanan aku buat mereka yg putus tunang, boleh utk layan perasaan sekejap..tp jgn sampai lalai..dptkan nasihat ibu bapa..sebaiknya dptkan nasihat mak anda..on top of that, shall be Allah SWT la ye..mak org yg paling memahami anaknya..
sekarang, aku cuma fokus utk bahagiakan mak dan family aku..sponsor utk holiday etc..semua yg mak aku nak aku belikan..sebab dia aku bangkit dan berjaya..
tp mmg x dinafikan, kesan putus tunang memang akn kekal..sampai sekarang aku masih lg xde keinginan utk kahwin..penat mak aku nasihatkan suruh cari calon..mungkin sbb x bersedia dan x mencari lg kot..
ingat, putus tunang tidak bermaksud "check mate" kalau xde ruang utk lari, crate your own space!
– mohd
Saya baru putus tunang 2 januari 2016 lepas, family lelaki officially putuskan 23 januari baru ni. Semua simptom2 pasca putus tunang sy alami kecuali saya takda mak nak doa kan dan tenangkan saya.. setiap hari sy menangis bila baca quran dan yasin. Itu la pengubat saya.
I wanna tell u one story about a girl name Nia. She was naive but her heart is good, she fears nothing coz she got Allah by herside. Lost her mom to a careless post operation in one of public hospital in her hometown. She felt so lonely without her mom. Her dad remarried and all her brothers dont even care bout her. She lives on her own in a far far away Concrete Kingdom, in her ups and downs, Allah gave her many good friends that she called them as her bff, subtitutes of siblings for her. One day she met a guy from her former school, that guy wants to marry her, but then he refused and left her just like that, she cried but she able to move on bcz of her bff lifted her up again, year by year, the guy came into her life again, he wants her again, but then he left her just like that, she fall once again but this time she never fall so hard becoz she learnt the first lesson. Day by day, she finished her master degree and got offered a good position in one of private university in the concrete kingdom. She lives a happy life becoz she is a forgiver, she learn to be a grateful servant to Allah, forgive, forget the past and move on. One day the same guy came back to her asking for marriage, this time she accepted not becoz of love but becoz of Allah eventhough deep down her heart, she knew it will end up the same. She was right, the guy left her for the third time, he broke the engagement. She got no backups, her family doesnt even care how she felt or how she’s gonna live the life? Thats the limit. Enough givin chances. Enough sacrifice. She wont look back again. The guy that she’s been holdin on for so long, that she thoughts who make her sad and happy in the same time, that she accept the worse out of him, is no longer in her heart. The family that she’ been sacrifice her first job and took a loan to take care of them now dont even giv a damn about her, leaves her on her own. She was thinking of commit suicide once.
She was thinking that Allah has no been fair to her. She never done bad to people even when people do bad to her. She was a good daughter to her parents she took care of her mom till her last breath when all of her siblings bz working, and sacrifice her job just to take care of her old dad. She cares about people too much. She nvr been a bad girl that she remains virgin till now and nvr drinks alcohol or go to clubs and all, becoz Allah blessed her with good friends, her bff and she never leave her salah bcz she only had Allah with her. So when everythg fall apart, she was down, she dont want to pray the salah becoz she blame Allah doesnt even care bout her. But alhmdulillahh one day she realize, not everyone has the same heart like her, Allah made her so special that not even a man can touch her, Allah made her stronger with the life lessons, now she made up her mind, she is unique in front of Allah, she decide to stay special in front of Allah, she is special one girl that is so ordinary in human eyes yet so special with her creator. She now knows what she worth, Allah has a better plan for her, she always believed, if the world is not meant for her, maybe the hereafter belongs to her, after all this is not the end. She woke up, stay positives, moves on and forgive, she is wise for leaving all those shit, bcz she knew tHat Allah will pays it all for her. Now she’s back on her feet again, pursuing her dream and living independently, inspires people and helping others, more giving and grateful, she choose her own happiness becoz she knew she got Allah, she got no fear.:)
mak jadi tulang belakang anak.. hargai mak tu sungguh2. dan semoga terbuka kembali hati nak mencari jodoh.
baguslah.. jaga mak tu baik2.. semoga terbuka hati nak mencari jodoh..
Good advise and Thanks for sharing