I’m young and I’m sad

Salam.
So here is my story. Please do not give any negative comments cuz I can't take any negative vibes for now. So once upon a time,i met this guy who now is my husband.? Pendek kan cerita, aku drop study and kawin,family aku xtahu aku drop study. But the thing is,suami aku xsetia. Even sekarang, kitorg seperate. Dia sewa rumah lain tidur dengan gf dia,aku tidur sorang2. Aku rayu kat dia macam2, dia salahkan aku untuk semua sedangkan aku ni sampai tinggal kawan2 semua untuk dia. Ramai member suruh aku move on,suruh mintak cerai. Bt that is just not me. Aku tak suka cerai2 ni sebab dalam family aku cerai ni mcm dah biasa. So aku tak nak. Aku rasa down sangat2, suami langsung tak ambik berat,nasib takde anak lagi. Kalau tak aku tak tahula macam mana nak handle. Dia tak bagi aku kerja,tp kalau keadaan sampai tahap ni,aku rasa aku kena kerja jugak. Korang,boleh tak tolong aku bg cadangan yg bernas lagi masuk akal untuk buat bisnes.?
Aku tak suka jual makanan,i tried before. Aku nak bisnes yg buat aku busy,yg buat aku boleh lupa huru hara rumahtangga aku ni sebab aku terlalu penat.! Aku nak cari bisnes yg boleh tahan lama. Aku bukan neelofa,jual tudung dpt juta2. Tolonglah aku. Aku takot nanti bila suami dah terucap kata cerai, aku tggl sebatang kara. Atleast sekarang dia masih bg nafkah wang ringgit. Sekurangnya aku boleh guna duit tu utk modal. Please admin,please approve this.

– Birdy

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25 Comments

  1. Bersabar sis. Dugaan hebat yang Allah hantar bukan untuk orang biasa-biasa. Untuk orang yang luar biasa. Sebab Allah tahu sis boleh hadap dugaan ni lah, Allah bagi ujian ni. Be strong sis . Kalau sis nak buat part time business, boleh pm saya, i’ll show it how insyaAllah.

  3. cerai dan tinggal bersama family. that the best solution. solat istikharah apa yang nak kna buat, minta ptunjuk dr tuhan. Sesungguhnya Allah itu mengetahui lebih dr apa yang kita ktahui

  4. Even u tidak suka cerai2 ni, apa lagi yg u harapkan dari perhubungan u skrg ni dgn dia. He doesn’t love u. If a guy does love u, dia xkan buat apa yg dia buat pd u skrg. Either u skt ati dan tension now, or you nak merana sampai akhir hayat you. U deserve to be happy. Find your true happiness. Not this fake and full of crap kinda “happiness”. Find a job, tgk dunia luar. He isnt your world. U x blh terima negative comments. No, you x blh terima comments yg u x mau dgr. I am sure kawan u dah bg nasihat, tp u x nak dgr, u msh berharap pd dia. This is the time, u kene realize..u have to open your eyes, he doesnt love you. So pls, help yourself. No body cant help you, until you are willing to give chance to your own self. I tau x mudah, tp but remember there is a strong woman hiding beneath you. Let her out, and let her try to find her happiness.

  5. sambung belajar sis. Tak guna dedicate ur life utk lelaki seperti itu. Ibu bapa sis yang jaga sis dari kecil mesti happy kalau sis move on… Takpe, kita semua belajar dari kesilapan.

  6. Harap puan dpt berjumpa dan berbincang dgn kaunselor rumah tangga utk isu ni.

    Semoga istikharah dan istisyarah(perbincangan dgn ahli) boleh membantu.

    Personal opinion melalui general kes puan ni, saya cadangkan better bercerai sebelum ada anak. Nanti dah ada anak mgkn lagi tak sampai hati.

    Kemudian, bina hidup baru dengan kerjaya baru :)

  7. Dik kalau ko muda lagi, jangan buang masa. Nanti kalau ko umo 40-50 tahun pon dia akan tinggalkan ko jugak, masatu ko dah tua, jadi baik ko angkat kaki masa masih muda dan boleh cari org lain… Haishh sekarang pon ko dah ditinggal-tinggalkan, ko tak sedar ke… Kalau ko single pon takpa, lebih baik single dan bahagia, cari kerja, ada duit sendiri, ko spend time wih family, gi melancong…dunia ni luas dik ooii… daripada status ko berkahwin tapi merana setiap hari…ko sendiri kata mujur takda anak lagi…. Dah ko nak tunggu beranak ke, nanti lagi susah hidup ko bila kena tinggal dengan anak kecik. Ke ko nak kekal kahwin dgn laki tu, tapi taknak beranak sampai bila2…buat apa ko restrict hidup ko dgn laki macamtu dik… Kenapa ko tinggal sebatang kara, mak ayah adik-beradik ko mana

  10. Bak kata Justin bieber,.love yourself sayang…apa2 hal,patah balik kat Allah dulu, check balik semayang. Doa byk2.,nanti ada la tu petunjuk & kekuatan yang Dia bagi. Sabaq naaa. Bisnes, dropship pun okey..kawan dgn org bisnes,partner dgn dia. MLM pun okey. Manataw jumpa jodoh lain pulak ka

  12. sis kau ckp x mampu tapi aku yakin sebnrnya kau mampu move on & mohon cerai…kalau kat luar sng laki tu kutip & tidur pmpn lain dan2 dy balik nak sentuh kau, kalau dah kena penyakit cmne?? x ke lagi merana hidup kau?? mujur x de ank lagi..meh pm aku…kalau sudi…ada benda aku nk share dgn kau..

  14. U’re going to be more than okay.

    Abandon ourself in a toxic love in the effort to keep the relationship is usually when we start to fall out of love with ourselves. When this happens we hand over our whole self-worth n significance to another person, n bfore we know it, our mood n happiness becomes entirely dependent on them.

    When that relationship ends, we don’t know how to live. The truth is u’re going to be more than okay – there’s so much light n happiness ahead if u chose to let go, n fall back in love with urself.

    Stop fighting the old. Don’t try to understand why the person did what they did. U can spend years analyzing n still never know. Why they did it isn’t important. What’s important is the right now. The new.

    Fighting for the old is a battle u’ll never win bcz u’re wasting all ur energy that u can be using to build the new, to innovate the life u actually want to live.

    Refuse to entertain ur old pain. The pain I felt when my ex betrayed me will always be a part of me because it shaped me and taught me much more than a happily ever after ever could.

    Some love isn’t the kind that results in the fusing of 2 lives into 1, but instead can give u new life, a life that has more love than u’ve ever seen. Understand that some love is meant to change ur life rather than give u someone to grow old with.

    Learn to let go. U can’t move forward with ur life with 1 foot on the brakes. Pain is the only thing still attaching us to our ex. Let go of ur pain.

    I held on to the hurt for a long time. The energy it took to hang on to the past was holding me back from living my life fully. When ur heart is broken open, new light gets in. Embrace it.

    Forgive. I know that heartbreak feels like a stab wound on the heart, but understand that someone can be madly in love with u n still not be ready. Forgive them. Someone’s past, their demons, whatever the reason is, some people aren’t ready for love n happiness, n will push u away.

    Love them from afar. When someone touches ur heart, they’ll infinitely be there. But when ur mood becomes entirely dependent on them, it becomes a toxic relationship n u lose the love for urself. Don’t be frustrated if u still love them, just be sure to love them from afar.

    Understand ur worth. Never abandon urself in the effort to keep someone or something. Don’t regret anything.

    Mistakes r inevitable in a life worth living. As long as u learn from them, mistakes r very important. They teach u what u want and who u want to be.

    Maybe u fought with ur ex too much, maybe u argued with them at inopportune times. But ur anger was fueled by ur passion and emotions for them. U cared. U loved them. Don’t regret it.

    All that pain and frustration shaped u. U cried, you laughed, u were alive, and that changed ur life. All that pain produced understandings that hv created a new level of living.

    U now have a chance to be happier than u’ve ever been before – u can realize everything that is holding u back n create a life that u want to live.

    Learn to love ur edges. U loved ur ex’s edges, all their roughness. Their imperfections were perfect to u. Why can’t u do that for urself? There’s nothing u loved more than holding their hand n whispering words of reassurance in their ear, because u knew they weren’t broken, they were just bent. Do that for urself. Love those gory bits, grow into ur own wrongness.

    Crave more from urself. U confronted ur ex a lot. U craved more from them – u had opinions and big dreams for the future, u wanted the best for them.

    U never let them get away with slacking on their talents – do the same for urself. There’s a more extraordinary love out there that u would never know if it didn’t end it with the last one. But the extraordinary has to start with u – fall back in love with urself n let everybody else come for u.

    – Anna Bashedly

  16. Start buat dropship untuk brg2 yg trendy skrg. Bnyk kan google konfem busy haha. Belajar masak kt rumah smpai xde masa nk pikir suami. Untung2 kau kena cerai, kau boleh keje jadi tukang masak walaupun xde education ke apa. Tpi best option, tinggalkan je suami tu. Pompuan skrg kena independent, xboleh nk bergantung sgt dkt lelaki. Kau mcm boleh terima je dia nk ceraikan kau. Cuma kau tunggu masa dia ucap lafaz cerai je kan. Baik kau yg blah dulu.

  18. be positive sis Birdy. mulakan hidup baru. dengan ubah sikap awak yang negatif. mohon maaf terpksa cakap macm tu. cari kerja, muhasabah driri dan pergi pejabat agama, ke awak memang tak kisah dia buat dosa bersekdudukan dengan perempuan lain(kata sayang)?. cari kerja yang halal, jangan memilih.

  19. You are responsible for your own happiness. Klu sedih berada dalam kehidupan macam tu better bercerai. Pedulikan apa yang orang nak kate dkt you pasni. i know pegang title janda memang perit sebab klu kes cerai memang perempuan je yang selalunya dipersalahkan tapi apa kau kesah orang nak kata. Happiness is within yourself, seek it.

  20. You are torturing yourself in a toxic relationship. The fact that your own husband stays with another woman who is not mahram to him is a very big issue that you cant just ignore. Show him that you can live and perform better without him. Go back to your family, ask for their forgiveness..they are always your family and starts over. Dont chain yourself to that guy unless if he repents. May you be blessed sis.

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