Race and Marriage
This post will be delivered in English because
1)We are INTERNATIONAL Islamic Uni of Malaysia.
2) This is a racial issue, my non-malay brothers and sisters can help me out.
Ceritanya, I am planning to marry a brother I met 7 months ago. He is a phd student from India. He’s a kind-hearted man from a good, wealthy family, observes his solat, yada yada, everything good about him. He is the perfect guy, but my family (my aunts, uncles, cousins, and especially my father) are 100% against this idea of me marrying him because of one reason and one reason only; HE IS INDIAN.
His skin is dark. He’s multilingual but the only malay word he utters is nasi goreng usa. My father is a proud racist (he is proud of being racist –it’s the whole ketuanan melayu thing. Umno hard core). My family just don’t want to have a darkskinned Indian person in their family. It is unacceptable. And for them, this is a disgrace; an educated, good-looking malay lady, marries an Indian guy, from India. My family is a typical malay family. Almost all of my cousins marry people from the same state. This first thing that my father say when I mentioned about marrying this guy is “Don’t. They’re dirty”. He was disgusted. It broke my heart.
I know they’re worried about other issues too like what if this guy is only hunting for a citizenship status, what if he abuses me (they have this impression that Indians abuse their spouses). But what bothers them most is his skin color. They just couldn’t believe I fall for someone darker (thus, uglier). Banyak banyak abam Malaya sado, India bengali jugak aku nak buat laki.
Btw, I am a final year student. I will not marry him without my father's consent. Family comes first. If my family insisted, then I will have no other choice but to leave him and marry some random malay guy. But this is just very painful to live with narrow minded, muslim family and relatives.
So if you got any advice, suggestive idea, drop a comment n help me. How do I convince them?
And I accept critics too.
– Gadis Melayu