Recently i came across quite a number of sad love(?) stories. Mostly about people's boyfriend or girlfriend end up getting engaged, or marrying someone else. One of the stories is now viral (no I don't know the girl), and others are just stories of people who are related to me; friends and acquaintances.
I have quite (read:very) strict parents. Especially towards me and my sister (they were quite lenient with my brother), when it comes to getting in a relationship. To be in a relationship during school is a strict no for us. Not even crush, or special friends. In fact back in the school years, if we were to have celebrity crush, like, "handsome nya brad pitt!" mom would scold us, "kecik-kecik dah gatal" she said.
I'm not sure with my sister, but as I myself entered college years, mom started to become more flexible. She started asking if i have anyone special, or if anyone has 'approached' me. Okay long story short, i came across several guys, some of which i got quite close to, (disclaimer: my parents are aware of who I befriend with, or who i am close with, especially guys) but as of now, none of them works.
Mom doesn't allow her daughters to go out on dates with a guy (let's not talk about whether or not her daughter obey the rules) but i used to question her principle. I mean, this is the 21st century. Society don't mind anymore if anak dara goes out with a guy who's not their husband and what not.
But at this point in life, at the age of 21+, i truly understand why she set up those rules.
Mainly: never go out with a guy until you're halal, hence no relationship, hence if the guy wants you then he should just go for you: meet your family, tell them he's in it for the long run, hence if you have a crush it better be for real, not an experiment, and in conclusion, never get attached to someone that you're not sure to end up with.
No matter how long the relationship is, how deeply we know our partner, if it's not meant to be, it won't be. Not trying to be secular here, but despite the islamic reasons of why coupling is haram, if we look at it psychologically and even physically, it's bad for us. We say it's experience, but it's more of a waste of time, waste of money, and waste of our precious hearts.
With all these sad endings to my fellow friends' love stories (which i am sure has hikmah from Allah SWT), I understand how short life is, how precious our heart and soul are, and how it's not meant to be used as experiments.
Which is why i would always, and always repeat this prayer, (and may it benefits you too):
"Ya Allah, do not get me and my heart attached to what's not destined to be mine" ameen ya rabb.
– N
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Agreed with u!! When i’m in secondary school, my parents are quite strict about bf, crush and whatsoever..but when i’m in university at age 22 (something about that), they give me a chance to find someone..but, till now i’m still trying to find the best one..pray for me too ok
You’re one of the precious diamond. Stay on that way
Diamonds!
Exactly!
Agreed.
When the confession is in English, hok comment tu semua pakai bahasa omputih. Korang ni ikut je tanpa bertanya kenapa.
Kenapa perlu menjadi pertikaian ye?
kita ni kan malaysia… bm dan bi dah jd bahasa harian pun.. ape masalahnya?
No you all got me wrong. Relax.
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Husnul Huda Akmal this one
Couldnt agree more
Totally agreed. InsyaAllah. Family, siblings and society need us more than this thingy. Enjoy your “single” time and wait for the great moment that Allah already destined for us. Have faith! :)
That’s your opinion. For me it’s fine as long as there’s always a limit to be adhered
haha Satan can trick you very easily bro,
haha Satan can trick you very easily bro,
trust me bro ….don’t
Nur Artiqah
worth reading
Sorry susah nak hadam.comfession dlm.BI…BI UPSR dapat C je…
C = cuba sampai dapat
i don’t know why sisters need boy friends, but i know why guys need girl friends, that is for a sole reason. for that reason guys will spend money, time whatever it costs,hope girls can assume and guys ca feel guilty of it(for those who have gf)
La taqrabu zina aite? ;)
Sumaiyah Mohd Saufian
Oh kena tag nin jugak eh? Fatnin Aziz ok2…lepas ni sy tag both of u la ??
Xla…sbb ternmpk awk likes post ne..lgpn sy mmg baca..hihii
Ok good ??
Definitely agreed!
Nice sharing, indeed! 21st century minded not like our previous mom and dad beliefs. Nowadays young generation more open in relationshp but at the end the value of relationship just like very easy to get
Thank you! Totally agreed. :-)
Hahaha…setuju.ramai pakai buang skarang ni takpomn spare part.Btul kata kata mak confessor.support!
totally agreed
Very true and well said
Puteri Nurzulaikha Md Daud Rika Malik Nurjihad Najihatul Alya Siti Najemah Ahmad
betul lah tu.
setuju.
so girls.. jual mahal k:)
couldnt agree more
Yes.totally agreed! The best one will come at right time n right place
Sham Nor Azira read this
Uhuk3 gatal pulak rasa nya tekak niii Nazatul Izzaty Ishak
Ek eleh sangat. Tapi ramai crush walaupun takda relationship ?
Hahhahahahhahaghaha.. lololololol
Rosnani Talib
Agree
Siti Norsakinah read this
I still don’t wanna find a boyfriend. I goes with the same principle as this person is. Won’t put my heart as experiment even for experience.