Kesian jugak tengok kaum sejenis aku yang struggle nak move on after being left/dumped and so on. And to be honest, i am on the same shoes as you girls. But dont worry sister, time heals. To admin, thank you for approving/disapprove me. I am just here to help those in need, insyaAllah. Keep reading will ya. :)
Sini, meh rapat, aku bagi tau cara nak move on– tak kisah lah on men or women, i think it would work for both. Besides, both genders are basically humans, broken heart dosent give much different i presume. So here what you should do to cure your bitter heart.
1. REMEMBER the purpose of your existence in this dunya. Kita ni dilahirkan, ditiupkan roh oleh Allah yg Maha Esa, no more no less just to worship Him. "And i didnt create mankind and jinkind except to worship me" . EXCEPT TO WORSHIP ME. Harta, anak, pasangan, cinta, laptop, duit, kengkawan, kucing, makanan, itu semua hanya BONUS kehidupan. Bukan MAIN PURPOSE of laif. Fahamilah, hadamlah, tujuan hidup di dunya is to — bercinta dengan Tuhan. Kau bercintalah dengan Allah, semua kau dapat. Yakinlah, believe, trust Him. Takkan sia-sia cinta pada Tuhan. He knows everything, even sehelai daun gugur dibumi pun Tuhan tahu, inikan isi hati manusia. Grasp this concept– submission to the CREATOR, NOT the CREATION. Fokus dan serius dalam bercinta dgn Tuhan. InsyaAllah kau kan jadi sekuat aisberg di lautan pasifik. Nothing holds you back anymore, insyaAllah.
2. Fill your time with somthing useful. Isi masa senggang yang korang ada — masa berborak, masa tgk movie, masa melalak, masa huha huha, isi those emptiness with somthing. Isi dengan Tuhan, isi dengan Quran, isi dengan reading good books, isi dengan doing goods to other people, isi dgn study (utk budak UIA, blajarlah bahasa arab — anda2 sangat beruntung to able to learn arabic), isi dengan somthing yg give impact to your heart. Dengar good stuffs (Islamik preach, usrah, sermons, tazkirah, kuliyah). Attend as much as you can charity activity– sampai ko takde masa nak menagis meleleh ingus suma. Cut off/reduce rock musics, movies, dramas and all things yang takde kaitan dgn akhirah. If boleh, discard semua, if payah, reduce. Slow2. Kau akan rasa different, by time– those bad habit boleh kau kikis, you just need to believe that you can.
3. Write. Aku selalu buat ni bila aku rasa tertekan. Often i stress on myself because i keep struggling to forget him, i do the write. Aku expresskan hati perasaan aku pada kertas (or specifically pada Words doc — kemon lah habis ink kalau tulis kat kertas haha). Bila aku tulis, aku curahkan semua perasaan aku and i support myself each time aku menulis. Eg; You are worthy much more, you just need to be patience, Sabr. // Allah loves you more than you know // Seek for true love, Allah's love // Hold yourself together, never gave up and so on lah. Motivates diri sendiri like a boss. Its works and become a great relief for me. Even fone aku pon penuh dengan ayat motivasi diri sendiri. Keh keh. Bila aku rasa down, aku scroll2 mesti sengih balik tgk apa yg aku baca.
4. SOCIALIZE. This is important. As muslim kita pun boleh bersosial. Lagi2 pempuan (toksah lah duk dapur tong tang tong tang 24 jam sangat tuu– bawak2 ngucap). But do socialize in Islami way. Kau boleh bersendirian, aku paham, kau sedih, kau nak menangis 24 jam, 7 hari seminggu, aku paham. Aku paham kau stress the lav of you laif leaves you and so on. Tapi kena ade limit bro/sis. Kau nagis kuar ayor mata darah plasma membrane pun, whats gone is gone baby. Apalah nak dikenang kenangkan yang dah lepas tu (walllahi i speak this on experience). Boleh bersendirian, tapi hanya SEKETIKA.
Bila kau sendirian, kau selesa nak borak dengan Tuhan, selesa nak merayu, merengek, menageh, mengadu pada Tuhan. Yes, that is correct, but prolong loneliness is danger. The devils will slowly– try to deviate you (very harmful i must say). Dear sis/bro, after kau dah merayu pada Tuhan, berserahlah, tawakallah dan start attend yourself among the believers. Kau kena bangun dari bantal kau yg basah dgn air liok dan air mata tu, kena keluar dari bilik kau, kena pakai selipar jamban, kena g tandas, kena amik wuduk, kena menapak pergi SURAU/MASJID. Why? Because there is where the believers socialize. Kau faham? Situ ada tempat untuk mereka yang cintakan Tuhan. Go there! Find your peace! Imarahkan rumah Allah! Then'll you found true peace.. Trust me, it worth much more than bersendirian sorang-sorang macam takde hujung (baca:ending).
5. This is my personal advice. Take it, or leave it. I am just here to remind my brothers and sisters. Kalau hati kau sakit sangat, rasa macam kena rejam, rasa mcm duniya tak adil, rasa macam nak meraung. Kau benci laif kau, kau rasa kecewa, puas dah kau nagis, kau benci semuanya. Kalau kau rasa macam ni, baguslah. This is what i feel, and guess what. I turn this flame into torch. Kalau kau ada sumbu ini, nyalakan ia jadi api, kalau kau ada api ini, nyalakan ia jadi unggun. Api dalam jiwa aku, aku halakan dan aku talakan kat surau kolej aku. Aku baru start buat benda ni, tapi bila aku dah buat, aku rasa bahagia. Api jiwa tu still there, but it burns with benefit. One day, aku dapat tahu his true lies– aku nekad. After seround dua tangisan maut kecewa ya amat, aku nekad bangun subuh and menapak ke surau. Aku nekad jamaah every time of the prayer. Aku nekad hafaz Quran (or at least an ayah or two). Aku nekad baca Quran and terjemahan, every after salah. Aku nekad mencintai Tuhan aku. Aku nekad ikhlas dalam ibadah aku (i still trying).
Ketahuilah.. Jiwa ini, kau sendiri yang pegang wahai manusia. Kau yang corak. Kalau baik kau halakan, baiklah jadinya InsyaAllah. The jihad that i made every morning until now, is the jihad on walking towards jamaah. That is my jihad. Jihad on being better muslimah (or at least better than before– i am still trying, aku masih mentah dalam mencari cinta Tuhan– tapi aku cuba). Cinta manusia? Aku simpan, aku lipat elok-elok, tabur bedak wangi sikit, simpan kat satu sudut dalam hati dan aku serah pada Rabku. Because He knows best.
Kau tahu, Tuhan tak ciptakan kegelapan, cuma tanpa CAHAYA baru munculnya gelap. So, LIGHT up. Light your flames of iman, remove the darkness. You'll be alright :) . Hope writing aku yang panjang yaaaa Rabbi ni , helps most of you to heal, and run to Allah! Al-Wadud loves you guys! Never forget that! Jzk.
– Cara nak move on.